Several months ago, you can look back and see the huge falling out I had with my parents. The horrible things they called me, and the financial and emotional disownment that followed.
It was the best thing that could have happened to me. I feel like I’ve left an emotionally abusive spouse who was controlling me with money, telling me things to keep me small and little.
I’m no one’s chew toy.
My daughter spent the day with them today. She told me they said they love me very much and that was the hardest decision of their seven generations of life.
I told my daughter I would never, ever even consider making a decision like that, and I held her tight.
I ask to please be held accountable to the two vows I am making here tonight.
1. I will always love my children unconditionally. Absolutely. No matter what.
2. I will never again spend any significant time with my parents. I will not vacation with them. I will not try again with them. I will not let them in my life. Ever. Again.
Tonight, my parents called me horrible names. They shamed me in multiple ways. And for the first time in my life, I stood my ground. I told them I didn’t care. I am comfortable and happy with my life and who I am, and I don’t need their approval. I have worked hard to rid my life of toxic friends and lovers; why, then, should I let my parents treat me this way?
My parents have failed Parenting 101: unconditional love. Their loss.
Bye, Mom and Dad. I’ve got better people to share my time and my love.